How do you cope with misfortune, people?
I haven’t got so many anxious thoughts in my mind at this point, but they kick up a terrible fuss, making it difficult to find inspiration for writing new post, worthy to spend time on it.. both mine and of those who glance here…
It is a difficult time, some not very pleasant changes are happening at my work and my mother is beginning a serious struggle with a severe disease.
How do you cope with misfortune, people?!
For example, when I suffer from a stress (small or great, it doesn’t matter) I simply need to visit a book market. Honestly, I don’t have enough time to read all purchased books, because each book needs the right time and right mood…
This blog is not one of those where you can find advice or get positive emotions, now I’m inclined to identify it as an opportunity to “cry on somebody’s shoulder” without having to strain friends with my problems…
I just need somewhere to let my concerns…
P.S. my new conclusions: We live in the time when kindness done by a stranger has a greater surprise then someone’s sudden trip…
people continue to amaze me or #ROWW..
On February, 23 in Russia and in some parts of Ukraine was celebrated Defender of the Fatherland Day, which is also called the Day of the Real Men! Actually, this holiday sorted my thoughts in such a way that this post appeared. I want to talk about one worthy representative of the real men category being full of enthusiasm for some human actions. At first, I promise to tell a fun history, but only on condition that no one will laugh!
OK, let assume that we’ve agreed! One morning, still lying in the warm bed, I was very surprised, realizing what I dreamed about. But the dreams themselves are a rare pleasure in my case. So my dream was clear and pleasant, I dreamed about an island, wooden deck chairs with white pillows under palm trees, also nice people, hot sun, blue ocean and.. and Paul, damn, Walker. I was very surprised at a fact of his presence in my dream because I am neither a fan of him nor a fan of the Fast and the Furious film. However, I decided to find some news about this actor. My surprise grew even more by the fact that on the day when my interest appeared was Paul Walker’s charity formation the second anniversary. Of course I couldn’t pass by this story!
This post was conceived as serious and important, despite rather hilarious intro, because in my country the news about charity spread badly, but at the same time we have too much information about the luxurious life. And I want to tell you that life here for the average person, who wasn’t born with a golden spoon in the mouth, isn’t a sugar, so very few people are concerned about the troubles beyond Ukraine.
But people continue to amaze me. So, I was amazed that a man with some financial possibility isn’t just talking about the good deeds but he performs them. I know now that the main purpose of a small team (REACH OUT Worldwide) is to be on the scene as soon as possible and to help.
This team has managed to help after such disasters as tsunami in Indonesia, earthquakes in Haiti and Chile, and also tornado in Alabama. Impressive service record, isn’t it? By the way, I’m sure they were on the scene, when I just read the news, rubbing my eyes.
If it was a speech aloud then I could stop for a while so that everyone would have possibility to applaud.
I’m not a doctor or a nurse, I have no idea what to do in emergencies and I don’t know how to provide first aid. But I’m not a coward! I’m not confused by the poor conditions or a lack of makeup on my face, and to help for those who are in need has never been a stupid pastime for me. Probably somewhere I made a wrong turn in the path of my life. Now I hope to assist at least by a word, but what can happen tomorrow or the day after… Who knows?
This young organization exactly needs to replenish its ranks! Also, everyone can make donations or help ROWW by purchasing great items!
P.S. I really hope that the planets will line up correctly or the heavens will be gracious, and my words will be a link between those who want and those who are able to help and those who need help.
the beauty of human actions..
I read a small article about a great deed last week and I thought it’s enough to write only about myself. This time I’ll tell about an ordinary person who has accomplished a grand feat, which has been practically forgotten. As the phrase goes: “Not to pass by – is our human duty!” And it’s my duty to recall this true story. I want the beauty of human actions to triumph.
And that’s what happened. 16th September 1976, in Yerevan, a trolley, passing along the causeway, fell into the water. Ninety-two passengers were doomed to inevitable death, being buried alive at the depth of ten metres. But at that time Shavarsh Karapetyan, a multiple world champion in diving, made a training jog along the lake. He dived into the water which was turbid because of dumped urban sewage, broke the rear window by his feet and began to pull out the faint passengers.
When Shavarsh repeatedly appeared on the surface, the passersby at the dam saw that his body was torn by fragments of the broken glass. Subsequently, the experts admit that, no one in the world couldn’t do what, Shavarsh made then. For more than twenty minutes in ice water twenty lives were saved.
This event became widely known only six years later. “What was the worst then?” Answering this question Shavarsh said: “I knew that, despite all my training, I could make only a certain number of dives. There at the bottom the visibility was zero, so I grabbed the man by feel and swam with him to the top. Once I came up and saw that I had a leather seat pillow in my hand. And I realized that the price of my mistake – someone’s life. Not once I saw this pillow in my dreams.” In fact, he pulled out of the trolley more than twenty people, but not all of them were saved.
Such a feat cost him severe bilateral pneumonia, complicated by the general blood poisoning, and severe nervous shock. Doctors with great effort saved his life. And six weeks later he got up from bed, and soon he started training. A few months later Shavarsh set a world record scuba diving for 400 meters – the last world record in his sports career. Later, the disease took its toll and there was no question of the return to the sport: 11-time world record holder, 17-time world champion, 13-time European champion, seven-times champion of USSR, Shavarsh Karapetyan became a disabled person.
P.S. Shavarsh Karapetyan. Who knows his name now?
P.P.S. The courage of this man, prompts to look at ourselves and our life with different eyes.
best wishes or happy Bday, my friend!
Today is my friend’s Kostya birthday. I met him at a movie theater more than five years ago. We worked together. He had a day off on the first day of my evaluation period, but on the second day both of us were sent to beautify area near the movie theater. My presence was a surprise for him as for me was a big surprise the fact that I was in charge of mowing the lawn and remove dandelions by any means. After a couple of phrases he pulled out his phone and said: “so Julka, give me your phone number!”.
We’re still friends. It’s better to say that we maintain relations. I remember a character in a string, the meaning of which I haven’t managed to find out, the hijacking of kvas tank at dawn, the battle for the fantail, found in the room, mopping and dancing with a mop, hookah smoking during working hours outside the movie theater, eating hot dogs in the hall, an endless number of views of “Mission Impossible 3″…
But another memory remains to be the main. In one of my working shifts, I don’t remember how I found myself in a company of guys working with me, new guards, bartenders, ushers. We were discussing something, violently and laughing, when our administrator caught us for not working and said:
“Oh, Julia gathered all the guys near her!”
I replied: “Well, not all, everyone can’t like me.”
and Kostya said: “Show me!”
I: “What?”
Kostya: “That alien who doesn’t like you!”
I was very surprised and I’d probably blush if my skin was prone to this. I didn’t answer anything then, but now I tell you, my friend, thank you, because it’s the best compliment I’ve ever heard.
We see each other rarely now. I don’t know how you live, what happens to you and about you. But I know exactly what I would like to wish you. Let life allow you to be who you want to be!
P.S. Create and enjoy the created things!
some people call them Skins..

This photo was chosen by me because of the topical phrase on a t-shirt. The show has enough of such moments. Did you catch them?
By all indications, this post is written by me not quite timely, but as the phrase goes “better late than never.” So..
I live in Ukraine and news about something worthy reaches us with long delay. I remember the time when I (in school age) lived in a small urban settlement, where I managed to catch only one radio station (still I was glad for having this possibility) and a few more or less good channels on TV, which mostly spoiled audience by Mexican soap operas and, at the best, serials such as Beverly Hills. In general, it was a sad situation and now I more than understand it.
Of course, the 18-year-old actors of the show that will be discussed below have no idea what I’m talking about. I ask only to put up with my outpourings, I promise, everything will be clear soon.
The matter is in a recent godsend. The fact, that it’s hard to find something zestful in an endless stream of information, is not a great discovery. In addition, many things that are found in the retrieval route, simply offend my taste. I should say that I haven’t any problems with my taste, I have other problems, but not with my taste. So, the value of the godsend increases automatically.
Now I need you to listen to my words more attentively because I go up closer to the point. I was lucky enough to pay attention to the American TV series “Skins” a couple of weeks ago. I’ve heard about the British original, but there was no desire to become familiar with it. I can’t give any specific reasons because everything is based on my intuitive level.
Because of all the negativity that the creators and participants of the show have had to endure, I thought it necessary to express my own opinion.
What attracted me in this TV series? First of all these are the leading characters. More importantly, remarkable characters, that aren’t yet adults but are no longer children. They’re still able to think not only about themselves. They are not fairy pseudo teenagers – they are real, as every of their story. They are that sort of people that they should be: sometimes lazy and sometimes restless, somewhere loyal and somewhere honest, ready to go at night to rescue a friend and keep all doubting, distrustful and stupid, distracted and infinitely kind.
To go further, a musical accompaniment is a second thing that attached my attention. Especially, a big thank for a song “shout” in the last episode, it turned out very sensual! Next, I’ve made special mention of some very particular relationships between Stanley and Cadie. Also I like the way how it is shown that to be a villain is not as fun as it might seem at first blush and unpleasant consequences will be for sure. I enjoyed observing relations between a schoolboy and his teacher due to the fact that a boy may behave more courageously and honorably with respect to women than elder representative of the stronger sex. And of course humor, which is interwoven with the complex situations and worthy actions, which are interwoven with humor. Skins are living in difficult conditions, but they still look with eyes wide opened at the world, which only begins to amaze them.
There are things that people like me see in this project, because to make the right emphasis is as important as a comma in the right place in the sentence. Think about it! And the biggest disappointment for me was the news that the thing which is clearly worthy of attention, according to my opinion, hasn’t a right to exist anymore. After all, this theme will always be urgent, because the awkward age – is a “crusade” of everyone: advice doesn’t help and nobody can protect against mistakes – everyone makes his own choice and personal conclusions. In fact, no one knows what is true and what is false.
I’m outraged at all the claims against the show. It’s like when you are looking at a picture of a famous artist, some distant era, and see only a crack. It’s just an example and I don’t want to compare Skins with a great work of art and please do not throw slippers at me, I’m trying to say that behind their smiles and looks something more is hiding than most of you could see.
It would be foolish to ignore the writers’ work. The TV series is not without reasonable dialogues and it’s easy to admit it only if less to compare. Basically, every episode deserves such separate post. But more often it’s difficult to find the right words, you either understand it or not. I understand so I give a few examples:
~ “It’s hard to take you seriously when it looks like you come from the future..”
~ “What does every bastard who has ever lived have in common? His father is a bastard and he never broke the cycle. Break the cycle, Stanley.”
~ “I got to get an A, okay? If I don’t get an A, then I fail the semester. If I fail the semester, then I fail the year. If I fail the year, then my dad looks bad. If my dad looks bad, then my mom is gonna keep doing her fitness instructor over at Dimension Makeover and then my dad will go all introspective and hang himself from a beam in the garage.”
For sure, there are many things more worthy the time I spent on this scribble, but my hands, flying over the keyboard, and restless thoughts are in the power of emotions that were awakened by Skins.
Instead of conclusion. Beyond America not many people know about this show and if I had the foresight I would be able to consider that the number of fans of the show will be growing in the foreseeable future. And there is a probability that the point was put in this story too early.
P.S. MTV definitely has a lot of reasons to be proud of the created project. I don’t know the whole history of their struggle, but, gosh, they had to bite and fight for the existence of Skins, because this show has a heart and not one…
P.P.S. I have no idea why the verdict was so categorical as well as I can’t imagine how I could affect the decision. Most likely – in no way. So I say now, and I hope “loud” enough that I will always smile while remembering that or another episode of Skins.
in expectation..
I didn’t know how to describe my feelings when I saw this photo for the first time. And it seems to be impossible to describe them correctly. So I just say that I always had heightened sensibility to others’ pain, so now I worry about this poor animal.
And I would like to write about good things around me but I can’t ignore the things like this. Because we shouldn’t pass by! Someone should feel upset!
nearest and dearest..
My mother’s birthday is soon and I think it’s the reason why suddenly appeared the memory of how we (me, my sister and my father) came to see my mother in the hospital. This flashback is from my childhood so it isn’t quite clear.
Dad was cooking for us during the Mom’s treatment (but I have to mention that Mom said that every our visit was accompanied by phrases like: “Mom, we want to eat!”), also he was braiding us and dressing us in other clothes. For example, he dressed my sister in my jacket and vice versa. Our appearance amused my mother. Especially if consider the fact that my sister is almost two years younger than me, you can imagine how ridiculous we looked.
I remember the hospital walls and mom’s dressing gown. Also I remember cycling from our house to the hospital and I remember that Ksju (my sister) always sat somewhere in the handlebars, and I – in the back seat holding fast my father. Dad by-turn remembers this moment with laugh, specifying that the only picture I observed was the sight of his back on our not a short path.
No one explained anything, just said “your Mom got sick, but she’ll return home soon!”
And I thank God that it happened in such a way, because not many kids can share good finale of such memories..
Take care of your nearest and dearest! Please!
autumn mood..
I’m interested in too many things so I could call them a range of interests; but nothing interests me enough to devote my life without regret. But I’ll never rest until I create something I can feel proud of. The matter is complicated by the fact that sometimes my brain seems like an abandoned mine with a pile of stones and none of the stones is destined to become a diamond in my hands.
nothing outstanding..
More than a week has passed since I came back from my vacation. It is a very small segment of life, especially in comparison with the time that I spent within 4 walls of the working space consisted of such components: the Black Sea and the mountains of the Crimea, the series Shameless, my father’s grapes, care of kittens, long sleep, reading books (in this period: Strain and Living) and the fresh air, help to relatives and frequent calls to grandparents. Nothing outstanding. It was quiet and peaceful time. But, I can’t say that I feel thirsty for fun.
And now I want to tell a very recent observation. So: on my way home during an urban transport stop before the crossing I saw a girl walking near the windows of expensive boutique. How do I know this boutique is expensive?! Because even I have never dared to call at this shop. The girl was dressed modestly and kept in the hands a cheap package probably with some foodstuff and slim mannequins looked down on the girl from windows (I felt sorry once again that I was not the owner of the photo camera). By the way, even one dummy costs twice as mush as the girl can earn in a month.
What is the point? There is no essence, there is a division of society into the rich and the poor, and the line of distinction appears brighter and brighter, erasing a middle class so these kinds of people continue to live near each other but as though in different dimensions.
That’s what we have.





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